a matter of luck

Oh! love
Many believe that love is a matter of luck, and finally something liabilities, each of which would be capable spontaneously. Yet, as pointed out by the psychoanalyst Erich Fromm, nothing is more difficult than love: "There is hardly any activity, enterprise, in which it engages with the hopes and expectations as excessive , And yet fail as regularly as love "(The Art of Love, 1956).

For reflections on the erotic love or marriage, also added those on the love that parents bring to their children, so, again, things are far from simple, if one wants to admit that it is not enough to make children learn to love them.

Finally, the themes of personal development and self-esteem is very popular, and they are generally understood in the sense individualistic and selfish that permeates our society, love of self is also questioned, especially since , They say, we can not love others if we do not love oneself.

That is the meaning of this blog: to reflect and think about love (other, self), the couple, marriage, divorce, adultery, desire and sexuality, family, through my own reflections, lectures and research.

The self-confidence is sexy

The self-confidence is sexy ...

The self-confidence is a genuine aphrodisiac. The men love women who exude self-esteem, they are irresistibly sexy. Too bad that many women are plagued with doubt ...

How can we get more confidence for the next meeting?

Adopt a natural behavior, but more daring. At your next appointment, do you buy for example a new piece of clothing that you do not usually save - something elegant, which should highlight your sensuality.

Choose a place for your original dinner. If you are a pizza and beer lover, dare change of venue for a chic restaurant in town. It is certain that your attitude and your courage to appeal.

Dare to reveal your difference and keep mysterious. Flirt with your eyes and gently touch his leg. It will be stimulated by your seductive nature and very curious to know...

Would you like to fall in love?

Would you like to fall in love? In spite of what anyone says, if you believe in the love is there for you? Have you already heard this: nobody wants a commitment from these days, and everyone is married?

There are many negative sounds that will tell you that love could exist, but you'll probably never find. Do not assume them. Here are some of the ways you can fight off the messengers of hollow hope:

* Keep away from hopeless conversations.

Just because that is someone else's opinion does not mean that it should be yours. Look for the talks on the possibility that begin with words like: "I can," and "I will."

* Resist being manipulated by the media.

The media can whisper or scream that you should look or act in a certain way in order to attract someone. People who are overweight, bald, past the age of 50 years or more, driving a late model car, or wearing polyester suits and'60s meet and fall in love every day. So can you.

* Note the selective exposure.

People who feel and think in the same way begin to believe that this perspective is a collective right. If you think that there's nobody out there for you and you've collected on your five or ten friends who think the same way, you should be anchored in this belief, and you will act accordingly. Make a conscious effort to find and hang out with friends who have a possibility of faith and hope.

Build a bank of people who can resist the voices who say all the right track. In fact, the next time you hear that phrase, stand up and be heard saying: "Everything good can not possibly be gone, I'm still here!"